Masculinity for him...
The Divine masculine
According to the ancient teachings of Tantra, if you are a man, you have incarnated as a representative of the masculine force of creation and it is your responsibility to become the best version of masculinity that you can be. This is in spite of your age, your upbringing and in spite of what other experiences you have had - not to mention the culture you are in - that has caused you to behave in certain ways or to believe negative things about masculinity.
If your woman is very masculine, this makes it more challenging for you to hone your masculinity but I encourage you to explore anyway; to aim to become the most magnificent male specimen that you can be!
You are naturally fiery
Understand fire and you understand yourself.
The fire element is simple to understand. What you see is what you get. There are no secrets with fire. And like the sun itself, it “does what it says on the tin”. Simple. Really good at doing the one thing (at a time - power of focus) ) and lighting up the world with its dominating presence, shining light into the darkest of places and igniting our minds. Yes. Fire and its light dominates. All men have to learn to master their use of dominance and focus to get the most out of life. And there has been a lot of programming about dominance not being good. But if you didn’t dominate the lawn mower, the grass would not get cut and if you did not dominate the circular saw – you are not safe to use the circular saw. Mastering of dominance is good!
Fiery action and protection
Fire likes to take action. It likes to DO something. Just as it likes to burn through a log, it likes to burn through a project. Fire likes to engage in things and accomplish things.
Much has happened over the centuries to dampen the spirit of masculinity, but you must fight this and reclaim your male spirit. This is the positive aspect of the masculine; to protect what is pure. Not fighting in others' wars but "being willing to be dangerous”; to protect what is beautiful, good and wholesome - eg. your woman and your children, is one of the many gifts of the masculine.
Providing the power for the world
Without the fiery sun of the masculine, we would be in darkness. The earth (feminine principle) needs the sun. She would die without it. And just as the world needs the fiery sun, the world needs your fire too, your masculine fire. This is why you are here – to add your masculinity to the world.
You are hard-wired to serve the feminine. Your woman may not know this. Women have been conditioned to not know this. This is why you need to help your woman become clear about what she needs. To be clear is actually a masculine power and not her Original Way but you can help her; with warmth in your heart, invite her to simply state the outcome she would like and not the "how", so that you can serve her hero and make it happen. This is what the masculine does; it makes things happen. A masculine man does what he says hes going to do. Your woman will then trust you more.
Get out in the world and do your thing
The masculine is like the sun shining out there in the world, radiant and visible. To expanding the masculine is all about getting out there and doing what you have always wanted to do - following your Vision! It is about action not words. Giving your woman the chance to miss you and then you making her life exhilarating when you are with her. (Arthur on X) Taking the risks involved to become the best version of you in order to keep your woman excited in you. Peaking her emotions! If you are a happily married man but the marriage is sexless or you find yourself chasing her for mediocre sex, then you have lost your masculine edge with her. You'll need to get your power back. What is your Vision? Get out of the house for sure and into the world and become awesome. Who would you become if she left you? Or if you weren't together anymore? Become him - within your marriage!
If you do weights and eat well, this will charge up your fire further and will help you hone your masculinity and sharpen your edge to become the man you were born to be.
Getting the polarity amplified
When the polarity is amplified in a relationship, the sex is good. It's not necessarily frequent but its much more connected and dynamic and the woman is much more "into" her man. She is more keen and more active. If the sex is a bit mundane in your relationship or marriage then this is a sign that the polarity is flat. This often happens when the kids come along as he then fears losing his woman AND the kids which feels overwhelming and plummets him into the murky emotional waters of the feminine. This flattens the polarity and is the worst thing for a marriage. One sure way to get your fire back is to begin to take steps towards your three year Vision mentioned above.
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